“No union is more
profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity,
devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become
something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases
demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would
misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage.
Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to
find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live
in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They
ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that
right” ~ Justice Anthony Kennedy.
With
these words, Justice Kennedy voiced his support of the Supreme Court’s decision
to legalize same-sex marriage in the United States. Before some of us go off on a rant of
opposition, it would be wise to be reminded that similar words were penned
almost 50 years ago by another Supreme Court Justice; Chief Justice Earl
Warren. In Loving v. Virginia, in
which the Supreme Court threw out a Virginia law banning interracial
marriage, Chief Justice Warren wrote, “Marriage
is one of the ‘basic civil rights of man,’ fundamental to our very existence
and survival”.
Without
a doubt, some will quote scripture in voicing their opposition to gay
marriage. Why not? Folks did it 50 years ago in expressing
similar opposition to interracial marriage and the ordination of women. They did it as well 150 years ago around the
issue of slavery. But as was the case
then, so it is now, literal interpretation of scripture from centuries ago, does
not speak to the issues of today.
“Traditional
marriage” is almost impossible to find in scripture. Don’t look to Abraham for that, who fathered
sons from two different women, one of whom was a slave woman who had no choice
in the matter. His son Jacob had two
wives and two concubines having children with all four and apparently with
God’s approval. The ancient Torah took
for granted that a man may have two wives.
Many of the kings of Israel were known to have large harems. Oh and lest we somehow believe that Biblical
marriage involved two consenting adults, an unmarried woman living in her
father’s house, was transferred into her husband’s possession by his payment of
the “bride price”. Marriages in the Old
Testament were arranged. They were
property transactions. Does that sound
familiar to us today? Of course not.
What
about Old Testament prohibitions against homosexuality? Well, Genesis 19 specifically speaks to the
issue of gang rape, not love between two consenting adults. Likewise Deuteronomy 23:17-18 likely speaks to
the issue of heterosexual prostitutes of other religions infiltrating Jewish
worship; whether “gay” or “straight”, a committed same-sex relationship of love
is not what’s being described here.
Certainly
in the New Testament Paul must have something to say about gay marriage. Don’t go looking at Romans 1 for any help
here. Throughout the first chapter of
Romans, Paul gives us a lengthy litany of all those who stand condemned by God;
In addition to those who are “consumed” with de-humanizing passions toward
others, the condemned also include those who gossip, slander, covet, envy, are
boastful, as well as those who are rebellious against parents. Has Paul missed anybody? Certainly not me!
But
just in case any one of us believes that we don’t fall into any of these
condemned categories, Paul nails the coffin shut in Romans 2:1. “Therefore
you have no excuse, whoever you are, when you judge others; for in passing
judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, are doing the
very same things.” Paul goes on to
say “since all have sinned and fall short
of the glory of God; they are now justified by his grace as a gift, through the
redemption that is in Christ Jesus”. In
other words all of us have seats in the sin boat. But so too are we all recipients of God’s
saving grace through the Jesus life raft.
Speaking
of Jesus, surely he must have something to say about gay marriage. Nothing.
Not a thing. What we do know of
Jesus is that in addition to being poured out on the cross in love for the
world, he is always siding with those who are oppressed. He eats with prostitutes and tax
collectors; he blesses children who, by
the way, are the most marginalized in Jesus’ world; he speaks blessings to the
poor; he challenges dehumanizing institutions, and when pressed by the
religious know-it-alls, obsessed with determining who’s in and who’s out, he
says that loving God and loving neighbor are the only two things that matter.
Whether
Scripture informs your worldview or not, let’s take a step back. Gays and lesbians who choose to marry, like
their heterosexual counterparts, are affirming the goodness of marriage. They are affirming the desire to enter into
relationships of covenantal faithfulness.
They are willingly binding themselves to one another in lifelong
commitments of fidelity and love. Love
and faithfulness: Two words that abound
in God’s vocabulary. If they’re good
enough for God, maybe they’re good enough for all of us.
Peace
and Love,
Pastor
Doug
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